We are in our early forties with three teenage kids and our year marriage is mostly happy. On the way home my wife asked if I wanted to give it a try. I rang my mate the next day and asked if we could join in a session with them.
A big concept that many men overlook is that a healthy sex life is happening all of the time, every minute of the day. The more serious side is about trust, companionship, and connectivity. This is emotional vulnerability, trustworthiness, and how close your wife feels to you.
Let me make something clear up front. You might be tempted to think that there would never be a time when you, as a man, would turn down the sexual advances of your wife. Or, if for some reason you did, your rejection would be as rare as the appearance of an albino zebra.
Thank you for your very honest question. This is, obviously, a sensitive topic. But you might take heart in the fact it is not all that uncommon an issue among couples.
It all started when Kate began telling a group of us about her month dry spell at a party at her home. My utterance got the flirty courtesy laugh it barely deserved, and then Kate turned her attention to refilling everyone's wine glasses. Leila was a family friend of Kate and, for the past eighteen months, my wife.
Sex was never mind-blowing but it was good, regular, and my needs were met. That all changed four years ago when she stopped wanting sex. Every time I suggested it, or even cuddled her, she would push me away and come up with some excuse not to get intimate.
The man went on to unpack more of his marital history. He told me that the marriage had started off well and in the early stages of their relationship there had been a healthy sex life. Both spouses seemed satisfied by the level of frequency and intimacy in their bedroom. Their marriage bed now seemed to be a cold and uninviting place where both spouses curled up on their own side with no physical touch at all.
In the beginning, your wife was charming and quite appealing. You had no problems with intimacy in your relationship. Your wife couldn't keep her hands off of you.